relationships

Tuesday, 28th October, 2014
Torre DeRoche is one enviable success story. Her road to publishing, like her love story, is riddled with risk taking, which is saying something for someone who's a self confessed worry-monger. I adored this book because of Torre's light-hearted honesty and because she taught this embattled warrior of relationships a thing or two about love.
Thursday, 10th April, 2014
I thoroughly enjoyed reading this collection of raw and honest personal memoirs about infidelity and adultery. By the time I'd finished the book I understood that, without exception, the story of infidelity/adultery is one of growth and self discovery.
Friday, 21st March, 2014
This wonderful short film captures everything that's special about a first kiss. I promise you'll be smiling by the end of it...
Wednesday, 19th March, 2014
What has Barry White got to do with great sex? Tsk! You have to ask! It's all about the deep, sultry, breathy voice people. There's a reason women love him and it's not the glittery gold jacket...
Tuesday, 4th March, 2014
Among the many myths Western culture holds about sex, the massive orgasm resulting purely from intercourse is the biggest. Author, Jaqueline Hellyer, introduced me to the MAMA model of sex. Male Adolescent Masturbatory Attitude goes some way to explaining the epidemic of boredom with sex, particularly marital sex and our cultural preoccupation with achieving the Big Bang.
Monday, 18th November, 2013
Relationships are often strained by disagreements over what's fair in the bedroom - women want quality, men want quantity. Sex isn't an entitlement in a relationship. For men who want more frequent sex the formula is simple: be respectful and become the lover your partner longs for. If you can't be bothered then quit your bitching!
Tuesday, 8th October, 2013
I had my first birds and bees conversation with my nine year old last night, with hilarious results. How did you first find out about sex?
Tuesday, 1st October, 2013
The idea of exchanging letters with a lover is endlessly romantic and I’m regretful it doesn't happen any more.
Wednesday, 31st July, 2013
You’d think after forty (ahem) years on this earth I’d know pretty much all there is to know about my own body, right? Wrong. As an avid reader of sacred sexual texts like Tantra, Taoism and Karma Sutra, I thought I was pretty up (or down) with the multitudinous and fascinating functions of my lady bits.
Thursday, 25th July, 2013
Why do we have sex? Because we want to satisfy our longing for our object of desire? Because we’re in lurv? Because we want to feel good? Ultimately, is it because we want to experience orgasm?
Wednesday, 19th June, 2013
A lot of people poo-poo erotic romance, and romance in general, as fluffy rubbish, and in some cases they’d be right. However, as a generalisation it’s deeply wrong to make the assumption that all romance and erotic fiction is just about sexy titillation that involves little intelligence to read and less talent to write.
Wednesday, 22nd May, 2013
While I’m on questions I consistently get asked (see Virginity and other disappointments), there is another fairly personal In the bedroom question that keeps raising its nosey head. It’s a question that no one would dare ask under usual circumstances (unless they were a very close friend or really drunk or both).
Friday, 10th May, 2013
Imagine this. You are talking to someone who is an acquaintance and, after listening to a short synopsis about your new book, they lean in close to your ear and whisper – ‘So, is that how you lost your virginity?’
Friday, 19th April, 2013
I found this a tough and compelling read, and I'm still grappling with mixed feelings about it. Not Your Ordinary Housewife is a gruelling, and funny, and shocking, and, at its heart, a tragic love story. Nikki was once one of Australia's foremost porn queen's, loved and revered by thousands of men who wrote her intimate letters, swooned over her raunchy photos and videos, and masturbated endlessly to the fragrance of her used underwear.
Thursday, 28th March, 2013
I’ve discovered a website/blog that makes me think I should just shut up shop and go home. Masterminded by Jane, who lives in a quintessential flowery English cottage where a Laura Ashley bomb went off, the blog everything I was aiming to do with Ecstasy Files but with taste (never been my strong point).
Thursday, 20th December, 2012
I’m so tired of the Christmas clichés, aren’t you? In reality, for many, December is damned stressful, brimming with high expectations, exhaustion and disappointment. The festive season is supposed to be about pleasure, but we’re often so worried about getting it right or making sure we meet everyone’s needs, we forget to really enjoy it.
Thursday, 22nd November, 2012
Thanks to Twitter I learned something pretty interesting about the pleasure potential in my body the other day. Now don’t get any ideas, this doesn’t involve dirty pictures and loose-topped pants!