Tuesday, 2nd September, 2014
I received a letter the other day from an older woman expressing her disappointment at the ‘explicit descriptions of sensual activities’ in my book, The Yearning. It was the second time that week my writing had been labelled ‘porn’. It saddened me because people lump all sex writing in one shameful basket. All sex writing isn't the same and I wish people would stop trying to make it so.
Thursday, 10th April, 2014
I thoroughly enjoyed reading this collection of raw and honest personal memoirs about infidelity and adultery. By the time I'd finished the book I understood that, without exception, the story of infidelity/adultery is one of growth and self discovery.
Friday, 21st March, 2014
This wonderful short film captures everything that's special about a first kiss. I promise you'll be smiling by the end of it...
Wednesday, 19th March, 2014
What has Barry White got to do with great sex? Tsk! You have to ask! It's all about the deep, sultry, breathy voice people. There's a reason women love him and it's not the glittery gold jacket...
Monday, 18th November, 2013
Relationships are often strained by disagreements over what's fair in the bedroom - women want quality, men want quantity. Sex isn't an entitlement in a relationship. For men who want more frequent sex the formula is simple: be respectful and become the lover your partner longs for. If you can't be bothered then quit your bitching!
Tuesday, 8th October, 2013
I had my first birds and bees conversation with my nine year old last night, with hilarious results. How did you first find out about sex?
Wednesday, 25th September, 2013
As an erotic fiction writer, research can lead to some unexpected surprises. In erotic fiction, as in real estate, it's all about position.
Wednesday, 31st July, 2013
You’d think after forty (ahem) years on this earth I’d know pretty much all there is to know about my own body, right? Wrong. As an avid reader of sacred sexual texts like Tantra, Taoism and Karma Sutra, I thought I was pretty up (or down) with the multitudinous and fascinating functions of my lady bits.
Thursday, 25th July, 2013
Why do we have sex? Because we want to satisfy our longing for our object of desire? Because we’re in lurv? Because we want to feel good? Ultimately, is it because we want to experience orgasm?
Wednesday, 10th July, 2013
It never ceases to amaze me how much we allow our beliefs to limit our experience. And this is never truer when it comes to sex.
Wednesday, 22nd May, 2013
While I’m on questions I consistently get asked (see Virginity and other disappointments), there is another fairly personal In the bedroom question that keeps raising its nosey head. It’s a question that no one would dare ask under usual circumstances (unless they were a very close friend or really drunk or both).
Friday, 10th May, 2013
Imagine this. You are talking to someone who is an acquaintance and, after listening to a short synopsis about your new book, they lean in close to your ear and whisper – ‘So, is that how you lost your virginity?’
Friday, 19th April, 2013
I found this a tough and compelling read, and I'm still grappling with mixed feelings about it. Not Your Ordinary Housewife is a gruelling, and funny, and shocking, and, at its heart, a tragic love story. Nikki was once one of Australia's foremost porn queen's, loved and revered by thousands of men who wrote her intimate letters, swooned over her raunchy photos and videos, and masturbated endlessly to the fragrance of her used underwear.
Monday, 15th April, 2013
There must be something wrong with me. I don’t go squeamish when I hear the word ‘vagina’. Or any of the other anatomical references to female genitalia (vulva, labia, clitoris etc etc). Nor do I feel in any way shocked or offended when the words penis, testes or glans fall into a conversation (in context). But apparently I am an exception.
Thursday, 28th March, 2013
I’ve discovered a website/blog that makes me think I should just shut up shop and go home. Masterminded by Jane, who lives in a quintessential flowery English cottage where a Laura Ashley bomb went off, the blog everything I was aiming to do with Ecstasy Files but with taste (never been my strong point).
Thursday, 14th March, 2013
Whenever someone asks my beloved 'So, what does she write?', he invariably responds, 'Smut. Filth.' Then giggles like a stoopid school boy. Sigh. One of the things an out erotic fiction writer (and there are plenty of them still in the closet, believe me) must face are the inevitable 'Wink, wink, nudge, nudge's' ...
Wednesday, 13th February, 2013
Since I hit the big '40' I've avoided any references to my age. When asked I simply reply 'I'm on the wrong side of 40.' It gets a laugh and stops any further enquiries dead in their tracks. Why? Because I liked being young. Youth made me feel desirable and fit and ready for romance whenever it came along. As age has crept up on me I've tried to hold on to that carefree sexual confidence that came with being twenty something and stubbornly refused to look (or, some would argue, act) my age.
Thursday, 10th January, 2013
There are many great G's in life. 'The G' - a fond reference to the famous Melbourne Cricket Ground - and the G-spot - another fond reference to a highly sought after (and some would say imaginary) party spot in a woman's body - but today I want to celebrate a not so talked about G - the humble G-string.
Thursday, 20th December, 2012
I’m so tired of the Christmas clichés, aren’t you? In reality, for many, December is damned stressful, brimming with high expectations, exhaustion and disappointment. The festive season is supposed to be about pleasure, but we’re often so worried about getting it right or making sure we meet everyone’s needs, we forget to really enjoy it.
Thursday, 6th December, 2012
“When you need escape, when you need that rough lover to bring you to your knees, here you will find stories to singe your fingers. The taste of adventure, the tang of BDSM, the burn of fantasy run wild. Brace yourselves, if you dare to read.”